"the nicest and the sweetest days are not those on which anything very splendid or wonderful or exciting happens, but just those that bring simple pleasure, following one another softly, like pearls slipping off a string."
Lucy Maud Montgomery

Tuesday, March 2, 2010


...as I make my way around blog-land I have noticed a recurring theme and I am curious as how you handle it.  KD from Fresh Fixins alluded to it last week and now it seems to be my turn.

When I visit my favorite blogs, or even a new blog, I often leave a comment.  I can truthfully say that I do not always leave a comment.  Perhaps the subject is not of interest to me or I don't feel that I have anything useful to say...I really am quite shy, but, more often than not I do comment.  I try to leave a little note of cheer or encouragement and sometimes I may even share a particular memory that their post may have evoked.

There are a few blogs that I visit that rarely leave a comment on my blog.  I know they have come by and I can't help wondering why they never say a word.  I am not referring to lurkers but to specific bloggers who don't take a moment to comment,  I will not name names!

Do you comment in like to every comment you recieve?  Do you comment every time you read a post?  Or do you read and leave...wondering and waiting...signed, Curious.


  1. JoJo, I agree with you. I'm sure we've all noticed the same thing. I work with a large blogroll, and I want to follow each and every one of them. To truly follow, I think I need to chat with them on occasion, which means leaving a comment. We all love comments because it lets us know that someone read our post. Yes, I try to comment and it allows me to feel like I'm really getting to know the person behind the blog!

  2. I comment a whole lot more than people comment on my blog. I don't always know who the people are that come by, but I do know there are some who never comment. I guess it doesn't bother me, but I do enjoy your comments. Of course, what I post isn't all that witty or profound.

  3. Although my intention is to always comment on my regular blogs, I don't often have the luxury. My grand boy will run in and want me to lift him up on my lap and well, you never refuse those little arms that are outreaching.
    But on topic, there was one blog I read everyday for a year and never, once did I receive a comment in return. What did I do? Stop reading that blog. Was that right?

  4. It depends on the content of the blog and if I can relate to it. Some blogs are of great interest to me and others not so much. I do love reading blogs and read more than I comment on for sure.

  5. I'm not a very good commenter... There are still blogs I read faithfully and don't leave a comment. I don't know why.

    At the beginning of the year I resolved to start commenting on those blogs. As of today I've added three. There are still about 10 that I read but don't comment on, most of them have a large following with 100's of comments.

    I do make a point to comment on all those who read and comment at my blog. On the other hand there are a few I comment on and they never comment on my blog.

    I hope I haven't totally confused you, lol!!

  6. I know what you mean. I don't always comment. I don't always have something to say. But if a blog in in my blog roll, I try to read "most" of their posts. I had a few that never commented on mine, and I don't know if they were visiting me or not. I deleted them from my blog roll and quit reading them. I'd understand if they had a hundred or more followers they were trying to read, but that wasn't the case. If you can't at least let me know that you are visiting or reading my blog, then you must not care if I'm reading yours. So I simply quit. I don't expect one to read every single post of mine or comment on every one he or she reads. But at least put a "nice post", "I agree/disagree","Your post stinks"....something once in a while. Don't be so rude!

  7. Jojo, interesting that you should bring this up. I used to visit and leave a comment on anyone's blog that came by to visit me and leave a comment because I believe it is important to let all know how much I appreciate their visits. However it has become more than I can do right now, because I have had limited time to be on the computer lately. There are blogs I visit everyday or everytime they post such as yours, and then there are blogs that I visit a couple times a week and I do go back and read the previous posts to catch up, but then I only comment on the most recent post. It was becoming too much for me to visit everyone everyday. So this is now what works best for me. It has nothing to do with how I liked a post, or how much it impressed me as much as how much time I have to be on the computer.
    Some blogs are difficult to comment on, because my computer freezes up or there are too many steps to go through. I went through and changed my comment box to pop up because they seemed to be easier for me to leave comments on, then I got rid of the word verification, because I read on another blog how much people hate that step in leaving a comment. It allows a little more spam through, but it's easy to remove so I got rid of it. Does this make sense? I love to blog and would do it constantly, but then I would never sleep.LOL

  8. This happens to me. Most of the time I leave comments. It's not very often I am at a loss for words but every now and then I just cant find the right thing to say. Ok I'm shutting up now. And thanks JoJo for all the nice comments you leave me.

  9. JoJo, I have noticed this too, and I am guilty of it as well. Sometimes I will read my favorite blogs, but if I am tired or cannot think of anything intelligent to say, I won't leave a comment, but I will come back later.

    There is one thing I have noticed, in the four years that I have been blogging. The most intelligent blogs are often (!!!) the ones that do not receive many comments. On the other hand, many of the blogs that become repetitive day after day get 100s of comments. They have found the "tricks" to leading traffic back to their blogs, such as giving away awards ("Post of the Week"), etc. The sole purpose of those awards is to generate traffic back to their own blogs. People go back, leave comments, and hope their visits will be returned and they will be given an award. I am very disappointed in this sort of behavior, and it put me off blogging for a while. I think a blog should be organic, and people should comment -- or not -- on its own merits. Once you see blogs that have resorted to all the "tricks" for generating traffic, it is time to move on from them. You will usually find they have a"formula" that they use all the time. It makes me sad because some of the nicest people in the blogosphere have started resorting to those tricks.

    The worth of someone's blog is not determined by how many comments that blog gets. Trust me!

    You have a wonderful blog, and I love your avatar too. Keep blogging, keep visiting the blogs you like. Comment if you wish, or not if you don't wish, and don't get discouraged.



  10. I'm guilty of it all...sometimes. And I have no idea why. Somedays I am comment crazy and other days the thought of leaving a comment seems like climbing a mountain.

    Again, no idea why I get like this. Stress? Real life goings on? Shear laziness?

    No idea.


  11. Wow you got a lot more feedback than I did. I just wonder about the blogs you visit for a long time and they never visit you back. I noticed My MEssy Thrilling Life went private after I mentioned her and I sure hope it wan't because of what I said! Especially when I didn't think she ever came to my blog once. I left her a lot of comments for the awful situations she went through and really do like her. Maybe some people are just more private than others, but blogging is so public...
    I don't comment every single day on every single blog or I'd go crazy but I try to comment often.
    I think if you just read you can visit a LOT more blogs. Posting the comments can be time consuming. Some blogs take forever to upload.
    I love coming to see sweet shy little you.

  12. Well...I'm a newer follower on your blog so I hope I haven't offended you. :) I try to make rounds, but I'm so afraid someone will slip through the cracks especially when I'm busy.
    And I totally agree with Jo's response above. Couldn't have said it better myself.
    Cindy at Lakewood

  13. I usually do leave a comment,I like new blogs and chose a few every day to visit.
    Just like you tho I get over 100 hits every day and get maybe a dozen comments that really really irks me.
    Lots of lurkers out there for sure!
    Have a great day!

  14. What a great topic, I enjoyed reading it and reading your comments thus far.
    As for me, I try to drop by all the blogs I follow once or twice a week (I used to drop by daily, but time just doesn't allow that). I almost always comment, just to let them know I was there and enjoyed reading their post. Once in a while I'm in a hurry, so I might not comment.
    If someone visits me, I make it a point to drop by and visit them, too. And yes, I've done the same thing Deb ,mentioned, visited the same blog time after time after time. After about a month, if the blogger doesn't drop by and visit me, I quit reading.
    And Diane is right, it is irking when you see all those hits, but many didn't leave a comment. Then I get paranoid, did I post something offensive, or just plain boring?
    I try not to worry and just have fun with it!

  15. I do try to visit and leave a comment to everyone who leaves a comment on my blog...it does get challenging when I have 40 return comments...but that is why I blog to get to know others, share and learn from them...so it is worth it. I often leave comments on blogs and hear nothing back so I'm not to sure what is up with that. Are there written rules for blogging etiquette?

  16. Thanks for stopping by with your encouraging words. In reference to your post, I don't always have time at the moment that I look through new postings and I usually try to go back later and leave a comment, but there are days that there just isn't enough time in the day.

    Hope you enjoy the rest of your week.


  17. i'm so happy i found your blog :) and i totally agree with you- see? we're all in it together <3



    lemme know if you need anything :)

  18. JoJo, its a tough one..I agree with some of you commenters thought, I don't think having blog should be a contest to get the most followers..I hate that. I would rather have just a few followers who enjoy what I write as opposed to a thougsand..maybe thats just me..I try to leave a comment most of the time..sometimes its a time problem or I don't quite know what to say, but it usually doesn't take long to say, great post or something..I like knowing that someone is reading my blog..how do you tell how many 'hits' you are getting..what kind of bothers me though. that my kids and close friends and family don't read my blog. I don't know why that is. Kind of makes me sad and all..I always let them know when I post..but rarely does anyone I know in person leave me a comment.
    Now this makes it clear as mud..but a great post for thinking it out!
    PS Have a great day!

  19. Hello. And Bye.

  20. Man, JJ...that is a good question! And I will admit it, I am one of the guilty ones. What's even worse, when I see you've left me a comment, my day is completely brightened up because I consider you one of my best blogger friends, and your comments matter.

    The only thing I can really think of is that sometimes I'm feeling kind of blah or even kind of ornery. I'm ALWAYS nosy so I want to go around and see what's going on with everybody...but I just don't feel like I have anything positive to contribute. HOWEVER!!! Now that I've read what you said, that is no excuse. Even through blah and ornery, one can at least say "hi, I was here," right? I'm gonna do that from here on in. You matter to me and I want you to know that.

    Another thing is this...for a while there, I got pretty involved in Facebook, to the detriment of blogging. Now, though, I'm getting back more to the blogging world. I still love Facebook, too, but one does not replace the other. I just wish there were more hours in the day...but who doesn't? :)

    Love ya, JJ!!

  21. some times i am in a time crunch and just want to make sure all my bloggy buddies are ok and only read when something moves me or i have a gut reaction i comment... and on some occasions like today I see the lap top say i have 14 min left i figure i can see one more comment on one more.. then BLAM screen goes black cause the battery is DEAD :) so then hours later i come back and the thought is gone...HUGS

  22. Hi, just dropping by from Drivin 55. I do try to comment most times, but go through spells when I might love the post but don't feel like I have anything worthwhile to say. Comments are nice just to let you know you're not talking to yourself, of course I don't really mind that either, I can even argue with myself and no one gets on my nerves more than me ;-)

  23. Jojo,

    I am the worst at commenting. I think because when I am online I have lurkers looking over my shoulder - applying pressure for me to get off. I am always in a hurry to get somewhere, do something, feed someone, the list goes on. My bloggy friends get such an unfair shake. ;)

    Love Random Insanities btw.

    Sami G.

  24. First time visitor and WOW do I love this topic, and how everyone has responded. A couple notes:
    June and I met through blog land ( in fact I just found you thru her) and I have never met anyone who has tried harder to respond to everyone and has made an enormous sacrifice of her time and energy to encourage every single blog pal she meets. I don't know how she does it. I just love her! Now, the reason I mention her is this. ...

    A lot of the other people in blogdom are very different from June. I have noticed what I now call "collectors". They collect, #'s of comments, number of followers, on Facebook they collect friends. The main goal of their blog has become a jr high popularity contest. Haven't you seen them? Those people who have 3,000 friends on Facebook AS IF they really know them all!

    I think I agree most closely to what Jo has said. This type of behavior is distasteful to me. Is this really how blogging has evolved? The book "blogging for bliss" suggests that we should always return a comment, always comment at each visit. That is the blog etiquette it seems. I disagree. I love a quality blog, I comment when I think I have something to say. I'll even email and ask questions if I'm really intrigued. I have made a few friends this way that I now email frequently. I am blessed to have met them and value their input and advice.

    I have to follow a blog faithfully or at least frequently before I list them in my blog list. Because of this, I have a limited # of followers, a mere 62, but the ones I do have, I greatly value and are almost all real friends now. I have had so many requests from total 1st time strangers saying I'll add you to my list please add mine to yours?????? Really? not here- move on please...

    There are people like June who have huge followings because we love her blog, we enjoy her stories. There are the wonderful french blogs, the boys in the barn- all have huge followings because they have quality blogs. Shouldn't it all be this way based on merit and personal interests? Who made up these comment rules and why should we follow them? Again Jr high mentality on what clothes are "in"?

    Gosh, I guess I really did have feelings about this. this is my longest comment EVER!

    JoJo, I've only gotten to a few of your post so far, it's 2:30 am, I need to go to bed...but if this is the kind of discussions you can initiate, and receive thoughtful responses to, I will certainly be back, and you are under no etiquette obligation to me.
    Happy St Pat's Day!


  25. Jojo,
    You got 25 comments on this post. I have never got 25 comments in my blogging life, yet when I look at my hit counter I have hundreds of people who read my blog. I just don't get many comments.
    I will spend a lot of time writing a comment if I feel that I want to say something but sometimes not. I don't base my blog on the comments. I love comments but I can't figure out why some folks get hundreds of comments and some don't. I agree with someone who commented here that those people who get so many comments have "pull ins" that bring others to their site. It's like a business for them, I guess.
    My blog is a personal journal with photos as it's focus. I do try to keep folks interested. I'm OK with the comment level that I get, but it would be nice to get more. Even my sister doesn't comment and she reads me everyday.
    I don't know what to say except that I hope I'm not one of the people that you're upset with and I will try to comment more often.


comments, comments, comments! If you've got 'em share 'em. If you are a no comment blogger I will try to answer back on this post. If you are...expect a personal reply from me! Cheers, and please mind those manners.

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