"the nicest and the sweetest days are not those on which anything very splendid or wonderful or exciting happens, but just those that bring simple pleasure, following one another softly, like pearls slipping off a string."
Lucy Maud Montgomery

Saturday, June 7, 2008

The e-mail I want to send...

but won't because I'm a big wussy girl who will do anything to avoid a confrontation. I prefer to think of myself as a peacemaker!

Dear SIL:
RSVP---it's french---repondez sil vous plait---it means "reply, if you please." Usually it is written on an invitation of some type. I'll use a bridal shower invite as my example but it works just as well for a wedding reception, graduation, graduation party, baby shower, etc...
When you receive such invitation, asking for an RSVP, you should take a moment out of your life to respond with a "yes, I'll be there" or a "no, sorry I can't make it." THAT would be the polite thing to do. And when you receive three, yes 3, phone calls asking you if you are attending, you should take a moment out of your life to respond by returning the aforementioned phone calls. And when you receive another three, yes 3, e-mails asking if you are attending, you should take a moment out of your life to respond by returning the aforementioned e-mails. What you should not do is:
* show up unannounced, 45-minutes late without an explanation or apology
* with your kids in tow
* act as if no one should be surprised to see you
* eat more than your share of food/desert
* not bring a gift
* take extra favors when you leave for your son, sister, friend, etc.
What you may not understand about the RSVP is that it is crucial for the host. She needs to be aware of how many people to expect, how much food to prepare, how many special order deserts will be needed, and how many favors will be required as they were all handmade with the bride in mind. All of these things being contingent of how many RSVP were received. Get a freakin' clue. See you soon??? J


  1. Totally understand your frustration with unanswered RSVPs especially when they show up with extras in tow. Please send me your 45 degree weather and rain and snow. It's over 90 here and I'm dying. My son was in Washington last summer for a month as part of ROTC training and he said he saw more rain than sun during the month of June.

  2. BWAHAHAHA...I am so with you on basically being a non-confrontational wussy little girl! I have a whole file of "DRAFT" e-mails that will never go anywhere...but it sure felt damn good to write them :)! And if you're ever feeling especially brave and when SIL finally crosses the line that lets your peevishness take over your non-confrontationalness, DON'T INVITE HER. And when she asks why, say you forgot...sort of like how she forgets to RSVP. Family fireworks will ensue. It'll feel good, though, because she's irritated you JUST THAT MUCH. BWAHAHAHA!

    Glad you got that off your mind, JJ! Have a good day.


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