but won't because I'm a big wussy girl who will do anything to avoid a confrontation. I prefer to think of myself as a peacemaker!
RSVP---it's french---repondez sil vous plait---it means "reply, if you please." Usually it is written on an invitation of some type. I'll use a bridal shower invite as my example but it works just as well for a wedding reception, graduation, graduation party, baby shower, etc...
When you receive such invitation, asking for an RSVP, you should take a moment out of your life to respond with a "yes, I'll be there" or a "no, sorry I can't make it." THAT would be the polite thing to do. And when you receive three, yes 3, phone calls asking you if you are attending, you should take a moment out of your life to respond by returning the aforementioned phone calls. And when you receive another three, yes 3, e-mails asking if you are attending, you should take a moment out of your life to respond by returning the aforementioned e-mails. What you should not do is:
* show up unannounced, 45-minutes late without an explanation or apology
* with your kids in tow
* act as if no one should be surprised to see you
* eat more than your share of food/desert
* not bring a gift
* take extra favors when you leave for your son, sister, friend, etc.
What you may not understand about the RSVP is that it is crucial for the host. She needs to be aware of how many people to expect, how much food to prepare, how many special order deserts will be needed, and how many favors will be required as they were all handmade with the bride in mind. All of these things being contingent of how many RSVP were received. Get a freakin' clue. See you soon??? J